National Adoption Week

14 – 20 October 2019

National Adoption Week is all about raising awareness of how the adoption process works and to find more loving families for children who really need them.

Adopt South: Who can adopt?

Essential requirements

Aged 21 years and over. They are looking to talk to individuals who can provide a home for a child that can provide security and stability. They operate under the legal framework that 21 is the minimum age someone can consider adopting. Previous childcare experience, a spare room.

Things that won’t prevent you from adopting

Adopters who are single. They always welcome applications from single people as well as couples. Adopters who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender, Working full time, Disabilities, Having children already, Owning pets.

Things they’ll need to consider

There are some things they’ll need to look at in detail to make sure you’re ready. A criminal record, Debt, Having counselling, Fertility treatment / miscarriages, Smoking and vaping.

For National Adoption week Adopt South’s team will give you an opportunity for a one to one informal chat about adoption and will be able to guide you along the path that best suits you. Their experienced adopter can also talk you through their experiences so you can hear first hand what it is like.

The event will be taking place on Monday 14 October, 10am – 2pm at Elizabeth II Court, The Castle, Winchester, SO23 8UJ.

For more information about Adopt South click here.

When a book might help Booklist

Adoption and fostering can be difficult subjects for young children to understand.  Sharing stories about other families in similar situations can put a child’s mind at ease and encourage discussions.  Stories may make difficult transitions easier to cope with and to understand.

For children

Flora’s family / Annette Aubrey ; illustrated by Patrice Barton. For children aged 4+

Rhyming book were Flora finds out she is adopted and her parents explain what that means. Useful notes for parents/carers at the back.

The most precious present in the world / Becky Edwards For children aged 4+

Mia wants to know why she looks different to her adoptive parents and why her birth parents didn’t want her. A charming and comforting book.

Welcome to the family / written by Mary Hoffman ; illustrated by Ros Asquith. For children aged 4+

This book takes one element of ‘The Great Big Book of Families’, the arrival of new members into a family, and explores all the different ways a baby or child can become part of a family.

My parents picked me! : a first look at adoption / Pat Thomas ; illustrated by Lesley Harker. For children aged 5+

A useful, simple information book which explains fostering and adoption to young children. Helpful ideas for an adult to use.

Tom and the tree house / Joan Lingard ; illustrated by Paul Howard. For children aged 7+

Tom has always liked being adopted, but when he finds out his mum is expecting a baby, he starts to worry his parents will love the new baby more than him. Tom decides he needs to find a place that truly belongs to him.

For adults

Preparing for adoption : everything adopting parents need to know about preparations, introductions and the first few weeks / Julia Davis ; foreword by Hugh Thornbery.

When you decide to adopt a child, you might assume that all the important work begins when the child comes to live with you. In fact the preparation stage before is crucial. This book provides clear advice on how to prepare for your adoptive child and create a strong foundation for a healthy and loving relationship. Julia David explains how many different factors can shape preparations for adoption, such as finding out about your child’s history and using this information to establish a family environment which will meet your child’s specific attachment needs.

An affair with my mother : a story of adoption, secrecy and love / Caitríona Palmer.

A moving and gripping story of love, denial, and a daughter’s quest for the truth. Caitríona Palmer had a happy childhood in Dublin, raised by loving adoptive parents. But when she was in her late twenties, she realised that she had a strong need to know the woman who had given birth to her. She was able to locate her birth mother, Sarah, and they developed a strong attachment. But Sarah set one painful condition to this joyous new relationship: she wished to keep it – to keep Caitríona – secret from her family, from her friends, from everyone.

Related by adoption : a handbook for grandparents and other relatives / Hedi Argent.

This handbook introduces grandparents-to-be and other relatives to information about adoption today. It offers facts about the children needing adoption, processes and procedures and, most importantly, discusses how the wider family can support and be involved in building up a family through adoption.

What to expect when you’re adopting– : a practical guide to the decisions and emotions involved in adoption / Ian Palmer.

Drawing on extensive research and the authors own experience of being adopted, ‘What to Expect When You’re Adopting’ does not gloss over the realities of the adoption process, but rather leads parents through the many stages and emotional aspects involved.

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