National Adoption Week

14 – 20 October 2019

National Adoption Week is all about raising awareness of how the adoption process works and to find more loving families for children who really need them.

Adopt South: Who can adopt?

Essential requirements

Aged 21 years and over. They are looking to talk to individuals who can provide a home for a child that can provide security and stability. They operate under the legal framework that 21 is the minimum age someone can consider adopting. Previous childcare experience, a spare room.

Things that won’t prevent you from adopting

Adopters who are single. They always welcome applications from single people as well as couples. Adopters who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender, Working full time, Disabilities, Having children already, Owning pets.

Things they’ll need to consider

There are some things they’ll need to look at in detail to make sure you’re ready. A criminal record, Debt, Having counselling, Fertility treatment / miscarriages, Smoking and vaping.

For National Adoption week Adopt South’s team will give you an opportunity for a one to one informal chat about adoption and will be able to guide you along the path that best suits you. Their experienced adopter can also talk you through their experiences so you can hear first hand what it is like.

The event will be taking place on Monday 14 October, 10am – 2pm at Elizabeth II Court, The Castle, Winchester, SO23 8UJ.

For more information about Adopt South click here.

When a book might help Booklist

Adoption and fostering can be difficult subjects for young children to understand.  Sharing stories about other families in similar situations can put a child’s mind at ease and encourage discussions.  Stories may make difficult transitions easier to cope with and to understand.

For children

Flora’s family / Annette Aubrey ; illustrated by Patrice Barton. For children aged 4+

Rhyming book were Flora finds out she is adopted and her parents explain what that means. Useful notes for parents/carers at the back.

The most precious present in the world / Becky Edwards For children aged 4+

Mia wants to know why she looks different to her adoptive parents and why her birth parents didn’t want her. A charming and comforting book.

Welcome to the family / written by Mary Hoffman ; illustrated by Ros Asquith. For children aged 4+

This book takes one element of ‘The Great Big Book of Families’, the arrival of new members into a family, and explores all the different ways a baby or child can become part of a family.

My parents picked me! : a first look at adoption / Pat Thomas ; illustrated by Lesley Harker. For children aged 5+

A useful, simple information book which explains fostering and adoption to young children. Helpful ideas for an adult to use.

Tom and the tree house / Joan Lingard ; illustrated by Paul Howard. For children aged 7+

Tom has always liked being adopted, but when he finds out his mum is expecting a baby, he starts to worry his parents will love the new baby more than him. Tom decides he needs to find a place that truly belongs to him.

For adults

Preparing for adoption : everything adopting parents need to know about preparations, introductions and the first few weeks / Julia Davis ; foreword by Hugh Thornbery.

When you decide to adopt a child, you might assume that all the important work begins when the child comes to live with you. In fact the preparation stage before is crucial. This book provides clear advice on how to prepare for your adoptive child and create a strong foundation for a healthy and loving relationship. Julia David explains how many different factors can shape preparations for adoption, such as finding out about your child’s history and using this information to establish a family environment which will meet your child’s specific attachment needs.

An affair with my mother : a story of adoption, secrecy and love / Caitríona Palmer.

A moving and gripping story of love, denial, and a daughter’s quest for the truth. Caitríona Palmer had a happy childhood in Dublin, raised by loving adoptive parents. But when she was in her late twenties, she realised that she had a strong need to know the woman who had given birth to her. She was able to locate her birth mother, Sarah, and they developed a strong attachment. But Sarah set one painful condition to this joyous new relationship: she wished to keep it – to keep Caitríona – secret from her family, from her friends, from everyone.

Related by adoption : a handbook for grandparents and other relatives / Hedi Argent.

This handbook introduces grandparents-to-be and other relatives to information about adoption today. It offers facts about the children needing adoption, processes and procedures and, most importantly, discusses how the wider family can support and be involved in building up a family through adoption.

What to expect when you’re adopting– : a practical guide to the decisions and emotions involved in adoption / Ian Palmer.

Drawing on extensive research and the authors own experience of being adopted, ‘What to Expect When You’re Adopting’ does not gloss over the realities of the adoption process, but rather leads parents through the many stages and emotional aspects involved.

Adoption and Fostering

Adoption and fostering can be difficult subjects for young children to understand.  Sharing stories about other families in similar situations can put a child’s mind at ease and encourage discussions.  Stories may make difficult transitions easier to cope with and to understand.


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Flora’s Family – Annette Aubrey

Rhyming book were Flora finds out she is adopted and her parents explain what that means. Useful notes for parents / carers at the back.
Age: 4+


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The Most Precious Present in the World – Becky Edwards and Louise Comfort

Mia wants to know why she looks different to her adoptive parents and why her birth parents didn’t want her. A charming and comforting book.
Age: 4+


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Zoo Girl – Rebecca Elliott

A book with very few words, but the words and illustrations work to show how the child is feeling. Quite powerful but could be difficult to share. Would certainly promote discussion.
Age: 5+


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Welcome to the Family – Mary Hoffman and Ros Asquith

A charming and informative book that explores the many different ways a new baby might join your family, including adoption and fostering.  Also looks at different types of families.
Age: 4+


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Families, Families, Families! – Suzanne Lang and Max Lang

This book introduces a whole host of silly animal families, who all carry the same message.  It doesn’t matter how your family is made up – if you love each other, then you are a family.
Age: 3+


Scarlet Ibis – Gill Lewis

After a fire in their flat caused by their mother smoking, Scarlet and her autistic brother are sent to different foster homes. This is the story of Scarlet fighting to keep her family together

10+


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Tom and the Tree House – Joan Lingard

Tom has always liked being adopted, but when he finds out his mum is expecting a baby, he starts to worry his parents will love the new baby more than him. Tom decides he needs to find a place that truly belongs to him.
Age: 7+


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Dad David, Baba Chris and Me – Ed Merchant

Ben’s two dads adopted him when he was four. This story encourages an understanding and appreciation of same-sex parents, as well as looking at the different sorts of families that there can be.
Age: 4+


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Long Way Home – Michael Morpurgo

George doesn’t want to spend his summer with yet another foster family.  Tom is angry that a foster child is coming to ruin his summer holiday – again.  Can they overcome their hostility and become friends?
Age: 7+


 

Foster Parents –  Rebecca Rissman

The Families series provides readers with an inclusive and diverse introduction to families as they exist around the world. In Foster Parents children learn about foster care, foster parents, and how all families are special.
Age 3-7


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My Parents Picked Me! : A First Look at Adoption – Pat Thomas

A useful, simple information book which explains fostering and adoption to young children. Helpful ideas for an adult to use.
Age: 5+


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The Nanny Goat’s Kid – Jeanne Willis and Tony Ross

This story gives an interesting twist on adopting a child from a very different background. It stresses that family is all about love, not necessarily about blood.
Age: 3+


Useful Organisation

British Association for Adoption and Fostering
Working for children separated from their birth families

Adoption and Fostering

Adoption and fostering can be difficult subjects for young children to understand.  Sharing stories about other families in similar situations can put a child’s mind at ease and encourage discussions.  Stories may make difficult transitions easier to cope with and to understand.


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Flora’s Family
by Annette Aubrey

Rhyming book were Flora finds out she is adopted and her parents explain what that means. Useful notes for parents / carers at the back.
Age: 4+


The Most Precious Present in the World
by Becky Edwards and Louise Comfort

Mia wants to know why she looks different to her adoptive parents and why her birth parents didn’t want her. A charming and comforting book.
Age: 4+


Zoo Girl
by Rebecca Elliott

A book with very few words, but the words and illustrations work to show how the child is feeling. Quite powerful but could be difficult to share. Would certainly promote discussion.
Age: 5+


Welcome to the Family
by Mary Hoffman and Ros Asquith

A charming and informative book that explores the many different ways a new baby might join your family, including adoption and fostering.  Also looks at different types of families.
Age: 4+


Families, Families, Families!
by Suzanne Lang and Max Lang

This book introduces a whole host of silly animal families, who all carry the same message.  It doesn’t matter how your family is made up – if you love each other, then you are a family.
Age: 3+


Scarlet Ibis
by Gill Lewis

After a fire in their flat caused by their mother smoking, Scarlet and her autistic brother are sent to different foster homes. This is the story of Scarlet fighting to keep her family together.
Ages 10+


Tom and the Tree House
by Joan Lingard

Tom has always liked being adopted, but when he finds out his mum is expecting a baby, he starts to worry his parents will love the new baby more than him. Tom decides he needs to find a place that truly belongs to him.
Age: 7+


Dad David, Baba Chris and Me
by Ed Merchant

Ben’s two dads adopted him when he was four. This story encourages an understanding and appreciation of same-sex parents, as well as looking at the different sorts of families that there can be.
Age: 4+


Useful Organisations

NHS:
Support and information for parents who are adopting or have already adopted.

Gov.uk:
Information about your rights as a parents, child benefits and other useful information regarding finance.

Adoption South:
Advice, information and support for both parents and children; both during and after adoption.

Adoption UK:
Providing an online forum, support groups, family days and training for parents.

Why be Happy When You Could be Normal by Jeanette Winterson

About the book

In 1985 Jeanette Winterson’s first novel, Oranges Are Not the Only Fruit, was published. It was Jeanette’s version of the story of a terraced house in Accrington, an adopted child, and the thwarted giantess Mrs Winterson. It was a cover story, a painful past written over and repainted. It was a story of survival.

This book is that story’s the silent twin. It is full of hurt and humour and a fierce love of life. It is about the pursuit of happiness, about lessons in love, the search for a mother and a journey into madness and out again. It is generous, honest and true.

Reviewed by Perspectives

An honest, raw, human book, Beautifully written. This provided a lot of discussion about adoption and the other issues raised

Star rating: ****

Digging to America by Anne Tyler

About the book

Friday August 15th, 1997. Two tiny Korean babies are delivered to two very different Baltimore families. Every year, on the anniversary of ‘Arrival Day’ the two families celebrate together, with more and more elaborately competitive parties, as little Susan and Jin-ho take roots and become American.

 Reviewed by Entre Nous

Although we recognised that Anne Tyler is a talented writer who has a good understanding of of families and describes quirky character, in this book dealing with belonging, some felt that this book was inconsequential”

star rating **

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Lemon sherbet and dolly blue by Lynn Knight

About the book

It is said that you can’t choose your relatives but some of Lynn Knight‘s family did. Three generations were adopted, and adopted in three distinct ways. ‘Lemon Sherbet and Dolly Blue’ tells their extraordinary story.

Reviewed by Bridewell Beauties

Told through the eyes of her family and gives a very good account of social history. Perhaps a little too long?

Star rating: ***

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